You wake up one morning and just aren't feeling it. You drag through the day, and then the week, and then the month. “This isn't like me,” you think, and then it hits you: You're feeling stuck.
Stuck in a job you hate. Stuck in an endless existence of drudgery and boredom. Stuck in a bad relationship. Just, stuck.
And, you may be thinking to yourself, why am I stuck? WHY can't I break free and live the life I want to live?
Fortunately, today I'm offering a breakdown of the four most common reasons people find themselves feeling stuck in life, and what you can do to break free.
You Feel As If You Aren't Good Enough
Whether you're looking to change your career, or you're thinking of moving halfway across the globe, change is hard.
How much harder are you making it on yourself by telling yourself you aren't good enough?
And, here's the thing: You may not be where you'd like to be in life, but you are where you are. Now, what can you do to change it?
Well, for one, you can stop comparing your now-self to your future-self.
Next, you can pick an aspect of yourself or your life that you don't like and make an action plan to get you from Point A (now-self) to Point B (future-self). For example, perhaps you really hate your work ethic. What about your work ethic can you begin to change now? What steps can you take to bring yourself from Point A to Point B?
You Make Excuses for Staying In Your Comfort Zone
Everyone has a comfort zone. This is a place where they feel unchallenged, where they don't have to question themselves or their actions.
Unfortunately, that comfort zone can soon lead to feelings of being stuck and a whole lot of discomfort.
And that's okay. Actually, that's healthy. When you begin to feel cramped and stuck, it means you're maturing and need to find a way to spread your wings. @BeginnerBliss
So, how can you stop making excuses and start stepping out of your comfort zone?
First, start off slowly. This may mean creating one goal for each day that requires you to put yourself a little bit out there. Maybe give a little smile to everyone you pass by. Or, take a different route to work.
As you begin to conquer your fears and step more and more out of your comfort zone, bigger steps will no longer seem so big.
You Associate with Negative People
I get it.
You've been hanging around the same group of people for years now.
You graduated college together. You work together. You just happen to always be in the same place at the same time.
But negative people, no matter how casual your acquaintance to them, can really put a damper on your mood and leave you feeling stuck and unable to break free.
It'd be great if you could just cut off all contact and let that be the end of it, right? But unfortunately, that just doesn't work in the real world. Sometimes, you have to make due with the people who are around you (especially if they are your coworkers) and learn to not let their negativity get to you.
So, how can you interact with negative people in your life without be dragged into the black hole yourself?
- Set Limits — You have just as much right to choose what you listen to as others have to moan and complain. If you're working with someone who just. won't. quit. complaining, you have two options: 1) Ignore all negative comments and only respond to relevant questions or comments; 2) Tell the person that you don't appreciate their negativity and that you'd like to foster a more positive attitude in the workplace (or wherever you happen to be).
- Set an Example — Unfortunately, not everyone you interact with on a daily basis will want to be positive. And that's fine. But you can still set an example of happiness and positivity for those all around you. And, a bonus of this is, those who want to wallow in their misery and complain about the lives they refuse to change will likely start to avoid you. Why? Because they'll soon learn that you aren't one to coddle them or play the “oh-poor-you” game.
- Take a Step Back — Negative people may try to bring you down to their level, and this can be emotionally draining. But remember, you can always take a step back from any situation you're in and realize that you aren't the problem.
You Don't Know What You Want Out of Life
Maybe you feel as if you can't make a move until you've got your whole life planned out.
Or, perhaps you feel afraid of the unknown.
But standing still, even when you don't know what you want out of life, is a surefire way to put you in a rut and keep you there.
The only way to learn what you want out of life is to live it.
Sure, you'll make mistakes along the way. But you'll also learn who you are and what kind of life you want to craft for yourself.
Coming Soon: 31 Days of Bliss: Guide & Workbook
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This has been an idea that's been brewing in my mind for awhile, and I know that this 31-day guide and workbook will help you to make small, manageable changes in your daily life that will leave you feeling happier and more fulfilled.
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